REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI Marital's Life has proved You Wrong BY PASTOR MIKE ADENIYI AJAYI
It’s never Uncommon that 79% of C&S Prophetesses are Divorcees (Single Mother), according to the research carried out by Mike AJAYI in 2014.This has becomes a Traditional Statement amongst many Old and New Female Ministers (Woli Obinrin) Prophetesses in C&S claiming that it was their calling (Ministry) that affected (broken) their Marriages. How true is this statement?
Can Ministry breaks Your Marriage? NO!
Ministry cannot Affect (break)Your Marriage. You (Broke) affected Your Marriage by Yourself. (Provb. 14:1) "The Wise Woman Builds her House, but with her own Hands the Foolish one Tears Hers Down".God, the Creator of Humanity, Ministry and of Marriage itself, has laid out His plan for Marriage as a Lifelong Union.
May be You need to understand this that Marriage was Instituted by God Himself;
(Gen. 2:18), "The LORD God said, "It is not good for the Man to be alone. I will make a Helper Suitable for him." Verses 24, says; "For this reason a Man will Leave his Father and Mother and be United to his Wife, and they will become "ONE FLESH" (ONE IN MINISTRY & MARRIAGE).
How come the same God who Instituted both Marriage and Ministry would therefore Scatter (break) Your Marriage because You accepted to do His Work/Ministry? (Gen. 2:20-21).How can God's Ministry that suppose to build up numerous Homes & Families in Your Church turn against You and destroyed Your own Marriage?
God can never contradict Himself, One of the purposes of the Church of Christ is to Build Homes, Families and nurture them for the second coming of Christ. (1 Corinthians 14:33) "For God is not the author of CONFUSION, but of PEACE, as in all Churches of the Saints."
How comes Your God's WILL Husband turns to be Your Enemy immediately You received a calling into the Ministry?
If truly the Man is Your God's WILL and Ordained Husband, he should also be God's WILL for Your Ministry, or else otherwise.
Nevertheless, the Bible says: "for better for worse" (Matthew 19:6) "What God has joined together, let no Man, let no Ministry, let no Church, let no Spiritual Gift, let no Amount of Money, let no connection, let no Position PUT ASUNDER".
The above has led me through a lot of Studies and Several Researches on what could have been the major reasons for the above subject matter and the Possible Solutions
Amongst many others, Here are the 4 Major Causes & Solutions.
Here lies the root of all Causes of Marital Conflict, Insecurities, and Sin in Women Ministers. Immediately majority of them started a Church, make more Money or start operating in one Spiritual Gift or the other, there is this Unpleasantly pride that rises in them as if they are more important than, or know more than others and their Husbands. They feel so arrogant, too Big and became Unteachable for their Husbands and others who could have addressed, corrected and checked their excesses and wrong acts.
Instead of thinking about yourself, spend Your Energy and Love by giving Your Spouse Grace and Love. “Where there is strife, there is Pride, but Wisdom is found with those who take advice.” (Proverbs 13:10).
1Peter 3:1, says; "Wives, in the same way be Submissive to Your Husbands so that, if any of them do not Believe the Word, they may be won over without Words by the Behavior of their Wives,".
REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI humility both in the Public and Private has demonstrated and Proven that whatever You have, whoever You be, whatever You have, or whatever connection You gotten as a Woman, You should always Honor, Respect and obey Your Husband and others.
2. INSUBORDINATION & CONSTANT ARGUING
The insubordination of Queen Vashti to her Husband cost her the Crown:
In a graphic Fulfillment of (Prob. 12:4,) Vashti Disgraced her Husband and gave up being her Husband's Crown. "An Excellent Wife is the Crown of her Husband, But she who Shames him is like Rottenness in his Bones." (Proverbs 12:4).
Research has brought us to the Light that many C&S Prophetesses are too insubordinate and refusal to obey orders from their Husbands because they are controlling other people's Husbands in their Churches (Ministries) and this always lead to constant arguments between the Couple.
Couples who seem to keep having the same argument over again on insubordination
often do so because the Man felt he is not being Respected by his Wife and also find it hard to control her, which leads to a lot of arguments without ever coming to a resolution.
In Ephesians 5:22-33, The Bible says; "Wives, submit Yourselves unto Your own Husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the Husband is the Head of the Wife, even as Christ is the Head of the Church: and he is the Saviour of the Body. 24 Therefore as the Church is Subject unto Christ, so let the Wives be to their own Husbands in every Thing.
I could remembered the very first time I had an opportunity to be in the same place with
REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI and her Husband in January, 20I9 at Omu-Aran, she never concluded anything at that meeting without asking "(Daddy Egbon, ewo ni o wa ok?)"
Daddy which one is ok? "Daddy, what can we do now sir? "Daddy, should I call Kabiyesi now sir?
As all these statements was uttering by Mum. AJAYI, as I was seated, equally I was thinking am I in another world seeing a Prophetess and a very Rich Woman of God Honoring, Submitting her Will to her Husband and also obeying orders from their Husband worth to be emulated.
3. LACK OF COMMUNICATION
Communication is Crucial in Marriage and not being able to Communicate Effectively Quickly Leads to Resentment and Frustration for both.
Further research has shown that majority of C&S Prophetesses Lack Good Communication with theirs Husbands, this can be from a Lack of Physical or Emotional Intimacy, Lack of adequate or sufficient time with their Husbands at Homes and isn’t always about Sex.
Some of these Wolis wasted a lot of time doing nothing in the Church, involve in several unnecessary discussions. Some will even travel without the consent of their Husbands.
On the other Hand, Good Communication is the Foundation of a Strong Marriage.
Travel without your Husband or his permission, Yelling at Your Spouse, not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express Yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication that need to be ditched in a Marriage.
Hardly would you see REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI without the accompaniments of REV'D. MUYIWA AJAYI, both of them Pray and Preach together, Dance together, Sing together and always with their Children and Grand Children.It’s well worth the effort to improve and save your Marriage.
4. SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
It’s easy to go into a marriage with lofty expectations; expecting your spouse and the Marriage to live up to Your level of what they should be. Many of these C&S Prophetesses claimed to be (Spiri-koko). Over-Spirituality is destroying their Marriages because they are yet to be Spiritually and Emotionally Stable or Mature to Handle both their Ministries and Marriages.
Being a Pastor(Mrs) or a Prophetess does not make You above Your Husband, don't deny him of Sex, be emotional matured. Fasting and Prayers must not make You run away from Your Husband, give him Sex at all time. Apply wisdom in every situation, how You Handle Your Marriage determine Your Spiritual level.
Maturity takes a Lifetime, so give Your Husband room to Grow without ridiculing or reprimanding for him for immaturity. Surround your Marriage with godly, Mature Role Models. (Philippians 3:14-15).
No doubt, REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI (an Extrovert) is more Spiritual and active than REV'D. MUYIWA AJAYI,Nevertheless, REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI always carry Daddy AJAYI along in everything she does. They always have nice times together. (Psalm 139:14).
Study has brought us to the Light that REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI is truly a Virtuous Woman according to Proverbs 31:10 -31, "A Wife of Noble Character who can find? She is worth far more than Rubies".
Every Couple must Negotiate through their own and Unique set of Challenges, and Find their own way of Living together as two equals who Enjoy a Respectful, Harmonious and Joyful Relationship like REV'D. MOTHER ESTHER ABIMBOLA AJAYI & REV'D. MUYIWA AJAYI.
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